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Days 78-84: Reflecting on a Loss that Should Have Been Prevented October 26, 2010

Filed under: Children,Mom's Over 50 — Greta @ 6:31 am

My daughter got some bad news the other day, a young man she knew from high school was killed in a gun accident. She’s taking the news hard. He was 21 years old. Her friend was going out with the guys to practice shooting guns. I understand the dad asked to go along and brought his own guns. He handed one to his son, but it didn’t have a safety lock on it and the son accidentally shot himself. While he was rushed to the hospital, he didn’t survive.
I feel for the family, for the Dad, for my daughter. What a tragedy, no good comes from guns.

No matter how hard you try to control their worlds, you can’t control fate. When my kids were small, I remember calling the homes of children they wanted to visit to see if the parents had guns in the house before I’d let them hang. Overly cautious, maybe, but I was more comfortable dropping them off. Most of the time, I simply invited their friends to hang at our house.

But when they’re adults, they are on their own and you can only hope, wish, pray that each day will be normal and they’ll grow to a ripe old age.

I now know what my mom felt each time I left the house without telling her where I was going and when I’d be home. And when they’re away at college, that feeling grows to include “I wonder if they’re home safe.” Thank goodness for texting. I secretly love when my daughter texts me to wake her up at 6 or 8 in the morning, cause I know she’s in her bed, safe. It brings me back to the time when I tucked her him, sang her a song, and kissed her goodnight.

I feel for the family, for the Dad, for my daughter; what a tragedy.


Day 11: The Move August 17, 2010

I woke up ready for the day, but it felt weird not to jump on my bike and I missed Stacey May. Now worries though, I knew I’d get a workout moving stuff from one dorm to another. Breakfast was easy, a bowl of Raisin Brand from the hotel lobby and we reached Manhattan by 9:30 a.m.

We moved one van full of stuff into her room on the second floor and headed to her summer dorm to pack and load the van. It took two trips. How she/we got all that stuff into an 8-foot by 10-foot room, I’ll never know. We then stopped for lunch. I craved for a slice of REAL New York pizza, and if you only have one piece it’s 210 calories. Combine that with a Raspberry tea from Snapple and I came in under 300 calories! Dinner was around 400 calories as I split a tofu vegetable medley with my daughter and splurged on one egg roll.

As for the rest of the day, we spent one hour moving furniture around in her efficiency, only to find the original layout was best. She now has a small bath, galley kitchen and a living room that functions as a bedroom for two students. Her roommate would be moving in later. We were moving my daughter now as she had been a summer student living in another dorm. We then set up the kitchen, bath, and closet purging along the way. At 11:30 p.m., we stopped for the night crashing in her room on air mattresses. Ah, college life.